Friday, December 23, 2011

Merry Christmas!

As you probably could have guessed, I will not be rallying to send out Christmas cards this year. Not such a bad thing when you have a blog! We love receiving them from others and are truly sorry to not reciprocate this year at all. Thank you to those of you who are keeping the cards coming!

If I had any talent at all, I would put Christmas hats on us all or at least take a new family photo for everyone to see, but as it stands I am going to recycle our most recent family photo taken in July just before my hair fell out. We all (except me) look pretty much the same and if you don't mind I'd like to pretend I still look like this.

If I were sending out real cards I would have included a letter letting everyone know what our family has been up to for the past year. Since you are reading this here on the blog you are sure to know exactly what we have been up to, but I thought I would put out a status letter anyway, one that has more focus on other members of the family and what they have been doing. So here it is...

The Di Silvestri Family's 2011 Christmas Letter

Hello family and friends!

As many of you know, this has been a crazy year for us, filled with joys and sufferings.

In July I was told that the cancer had spread to my brain, that fifteen tumors were threatening my life. I immediately began whole brain radiation which left me seriously debilitated until only a few weeks ago. Now, six months later, after some really unpleasant adventures in chemo, blood clots and nausea, I am feeling almost like my old self. My most recent scans show only one lesion remaining in the brain and that it has shrunk considerably, so it seems the treatment was worth it, though there were times in the middle when I was not so sure!

The blessings that this illness has brought to our family have been considerable. Unbelievable, really. We have been completely humbled by the help our communities have poured out so generously. Sacred Heart School and Church, West Valley Rebels Youth Football/Cheer, families we know from homeschooling days, our Opus Dei families and even friends from afar have so overwhelmed us with their loving care that it was clear to us that we had some lessons to learn from this situation! Foremost is charity. There are some amazingly charitable people in this world and it seems that we know them all. God gave us a lot to deal with this year but he also gave us the grace and resources we needed to make it through. Thank you so much to the never-tiring grandparents and friends who so often entertained the little ones, brought meals, drove me and the kids all over creation, did our shopping, our laundry, our dishes. I can never repay you, but please know how grateful we all are for keeping our family running while I was down for the count. I hope I can learn from you and emerge a far more charitable person myself.

Enough about cancer.

Thanks to his faith and strength of character, Jay has held up well in the face of all this stress. Imagine carrying the burden of supporting our giant family financially, plus facing the possibility of raising seven children on his own! He has been a rock through it all and hasn't missed a beat at work. I am very pleased with myself for choosing such an amazing husband.

Jay has just completed his fourth year working for Vivisimo, an enterprise search company headquartered in Pittsburgh, PA. He loves his job. He is a sales engineer and does a lot of demos for potential clients. He is very good at his job largely because he can communicate well with both management and tech. Jay works from home most of the time and travels from time to time, but nothing like he has had to in the past. His company has been incredibly supportive of my illness and encouraged him to take the time he needs to take me to the doctor or otherwise care for the family as a result. They continue to provide us with wonderful healthcare for which we are eternally grateful. A job he loves that keeps him close to home in this economy is no small blessing. We will never take it for granted.

Jay was an assistant coach for Joey's football team this fall and really enjoyed it. He will take a coaching slot for Sam's team next year and is looking forward to that. He continues to be involved in the Knights of Columbus and has taken on some new roles there as advocate and a member of the Columbus Club. He is faithful to his exercise and prayer routines and this is what keeps him going strong.

Joey is doing well as an 8th grader at Joe Walker Middle School. He has a solid GPA, is getting ready for his track season and has lots of friends (that we approve of, thank goodness!). He will soon be taking the Paraclete entrance exam (our local Catholic high school) and is excited about playing high school level football next fall. He had his best ever football season this year playing corner, and is pumped up. His games were really fun to watch. He became involved in Civil Air Patrol at school this year and is pushing us to let him work on getting his pilot's license at sixteen. (Fat chance!) He hopes to be a military or commercial pilot someday, so this is right up his alley. We are proud of the young man he has grown into and look forward to seeing how he continues to grow in high school. Physically, too, as he is already as tall as Jay!

Lindsey is amazing us with her generous spirit, sense of humor and strength of character. She is in sixth grade at Sacred Heart School this year and has emerged as a good, self-directed student, friend to all, helper extraordinaire to her mother, and big sister adored by the little ones. She is a member of the academic decathlon team and will represent our school with her team at an archdiocese-wide competition in March. We are so proud of her for pursuing this and winning one of four sixth grade spots. It is a huge commitment that requires her to practice on Sundays, get to school an hour early one day per week and miss lunch recess once a week. She is constantly making and studying her flash cards on every topic under the sun. She will be a good candidate for Jeopardy! when she is done. Lindsey continues with her cheerleading and just took first place with her team at a recent cheer competition. She also loves to bake and is fattening us up with brownies, cookies and lemon bars.

Sam, too, has made great strides this year as a fifth grade student. He made honor roll for the first time in a few years--we were thrilled! He loves to play football, ride his scooter and hang out with his friends. He is incredibly generous and spent his savings on very thoughtful gifts for his siblings this Christmas. He helps me a lot around the house, emptying the dishwasher for me and getting things for the younger kids. He has a great sense of humor and keeps us all laughing.

Julia, our third grader, is doing very well at all of her endeavors. She is an excellent student, and keeps busy with gymnastics. She is trying hard to make the competition team for next fall and has beautiful form. As a former gymnast myself, I really enjoy watching her practice and learn and grow. I cannot offer the football players any advice, but I "get" what Julia is doing and can offer her practical tips. She also is a big help around the house and with the little kids. I appreciate her very much!

Tony is in Kindergarten at Sacred Heart and doing well. This is his second year of kindergarten, as we sent him to our local public school last year as an extra year of preschool, given his summer birthday. It was a hard decision for us at the time, but seeing how well he is reading we are happy we did what we did. He is getting ready to play his first year of football in the fall. The little ones look like bobble heads in their giant helmets--they are so cute! We can't wait to see how Tony's aggressive physical nature and his sweet personal nature play out on the field. Should be interesting!

Bella at age four is in her second year of preschool and will start as a Kindergartner at Sacred Heart in the fall. She was just the "star" (the actual star) of her school's Christmas pageant and we all got a kick out of seeing her on stage. She was also a mascot cheerleader this year and performed beautifully at competition with her team. We were impressed and very proud. She has grown up a lot this last year and understands a lot more and is much more patient, which has been nice for us all.

Natalie just turned three. She will start preschool in the fall and, for now, is my constant companion. She is very bossy and loud (you kind of have to be when you are the baby of the family) but also sweet and loving. Dora the Explorer has never known a bigger fan than Natalie, and, as a result, she is remarkably well-educated in Spanish for a child in a completely English-speaking household.

As for me, I plan to rejoin the choir in January and hope to cantor again shortly thereafter. Before I can, I have to learn all the new music for the revised translation of the Roman Missle--a strange position for me to be in! I am so happy my tremor is gone and I can sing again. I wan't sure if I ever would be able to again. I am keeping busy with laundry, general clean up, and returning to general household management. I'm still not as strong as I once was but am so grateful for the ability to work around the house again. Who knew it could be such an honor to work?!

If I haven't lost you by now, you are a very loyal reader! Sorry for the length of this letter, but there are a lot of people to account for in our family. We are blessed beyond belief in our current situation and pray fervently that we can hang on to this for awhile longer. So many of you are in our prayers as we know we have been in yours. May 2012 bring even more answers to these prayers and the new ones that will inevitably crop up until I write next year's letter. Aren't I Little Miss Optimistic, that I will be writing next year's letter?! That's what faith does for a person.

Merry Christmas!

The Di Silvestris (Jay, Suzanne, Joey, Lindsey, Sam, Julia, Tony, Bella, & Natalie)
December 2011


Auntie Jen! said...

THANK YOU!! :) You, my dearest and oldest friend, are such an amazing inspiration to all of us. You say that this illness has brought you many blessing and opened your eyes to the generosity of others...well you have opened the eyes of many to see what a faithful spirit and heart can do. Your never ending positivity has been a blessing to us and watching what you and the family have endured has helped us begin to change our lives in awesome ways. Love you so much!!

Anonymous said...

Ditto to what Jen said!! And I think I'll forego my card THIS year as well. :) Love you all very much...... xo

Grandma Honey said...

We are all here on earth to learn to be more like Christ. You are teaching me. What an inspiration you continue to be to me...and so many many others.

Michelle said...

Merry Christmas, Suzanne.

Anonymous said...

Jay and Suz,

Thanks for the very uplifting letter. You are both truly inspirational and Vicky and I, and Zack and Brianna send our love and prayers for a happy and HEALTHY 2012 to all of the DiSilvestris!

The Benders

Anonymous said...

What a joy it is to read another DiSilvestre holiday letter from you. (I realize this is selfish). So, unselfishly, I am so happy that you have another Christmas with your beautiful family. (hmmm....ok kind of selfish of me too). So, suffice it to say, I look foward to the letter in 2012!

Merry Christmas, Suzanne, to you, Jay and your family.

Allaire said...

A truly MERRY JOYOUS CHRISTMAS. I rejoice at your healing and recovery and spunk, vitality, humor, intelligence, faith, hope and life! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Beautiful letter, thank you Jay and Suzanne!
Love hearing the updates on your progress and your beautiful kids. ALL of you are just amazing! Merry Christmas!


Jen (Terry-Johnson)

Anonymous said...

So glad to hear you're starting to feel better finally!! And to hear about the rest of the family!
Merry Christmas,
Ann Armenta

Anonymous said...

Praying for you and your family...makes me rethink my complaints!

antonia said...

God bless you and your family Suzanne