tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-272907152024-03-06T23:29:30.663-08:00Raising SaintsA place of retreat for this mother of seven (currently fighting Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer) to speak on the joys and challenges of life for a Catholic family immersed in American culture.Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.comBlogger670125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-22740096202823971632016-03-18T22:13:00.000-07:002016-03-18T22:13:14.146-07:00Happy National Slurpee Day!You know, just in case you missed it this year.<br />
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Today is the day my kids look forward to for months. 7-11 celebrates this significant event by allowing you to bring your own "cup" and carry out as much slurpee as you can for the low, low price of $1.50.<br />
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You may be wondering, "What kind of parent would allow their child to load up greedily on a drink of pure sugar? Especially during Lent! Who would do that?"<br />
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Look no farther...it was Jay and me. I know, I know, but just look at their faces:<br />
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These are happy kids. No matter that it looks like canned dog food (or worse), their expressions say it all: Mmmm Mmmm GOOD!<br />
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In our defense, we knew most would not finish their enormous portions (and they didn't, not even Sam). Moreover, Sacred Heart School celebrated the Feast of St. Joseph today (even though it is really tomorrow) and we take our feast days seriously around here!<br />
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If you missed it today, check the sign behind Tony above. It seems to be a two-day extravaganza, so there is still time! Bring in your 5 gallon barrel, your horse trough, whatever you have. Just remember where the blame really lies if you happen to make yourself sick... :)<br />
<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-10865647245657043432016-03-10T13:58:00.002-08:002016-03-10T13:58:30.839-08:00Joey's JobThe last time I posted about Joey's job he was teaching young snowboarders and skiers how to ride. To everyone's surprise, he didn't go back to that this season. Instead, he has been working as a bus boy at an amazingly delicious restaurant called Fresco II, which serves Italian and Mediterranean food.<div>
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My kid is transformed. He loves his job (and the money it provides) and takes as many hours as he can get. It is a two-restaurant outfit, one here in Palmdale and one at the Oxnard Harbor, which is perfect since he is going to school in Ventura in the fall. He has already requested a transfer when the time comes, and he is such as hard worker that I can't imagine it won't work out. </div>
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As humans, we were made to work and get great satisfaction from a job well done. This may be the first time Joey has truly experienced this in his life. I have no doubts now about his work ethic. He will cheerfully do anything his boss asks of him (including taking dishwasher shifts if needed...I am thrilled with his new skills in this area and so will his roommates be next year!). He fixes things that need fixing and will stay late after his regular shift to paint, fix walls or work on the roof. He seems to be well-liked by his co-workers and his customers and comes home each night with a pocket full of cash, which has relieved some of our family's constant outflow. At least from him we don't hear, "Can I have $20 to go to the movies?" Now, only six more to go!</div>
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Speaking of others, Lindsey has just applied for a seasonal job at the Jethawks Stadium. I can only hope it will go as well for her.<br /><div>
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Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-61434322668843113312016-03-01T22:46:00.000-08:002016-03-01T22:46:57.957-08:00A Prom InvitationLindsey is going to prom! She is a sophomore and it is a Junior/Senior prom, so it is kind of exciting. I thought I'd post about it here because she was asked in a very creative way. <br />
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Her date-to-be is an exchange student from China pictured below in an inflatable suit. He and his friends won a dance contest in suits like this so they teamed up again for this invitation.<br />
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The other thing you need to know is that Lindsey and I went to New York in December with Jay (he was working) and she and I were lucky enough to go see the Broadway show Alexander Hamilton (featuring Lin-Manuel Miranda, the show's genius creator as Alexander Hamilton himself). Since then, we have really enjoyed (OK, obsessed about) the music, book, anything Alexander Hamilton, hence the reference in the sign. <br />
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Apparently, this boy (his name is Nick) recruited the help of two of Lindsey's closest friends. One of them brought her in and filmed the whole thing and the other was playing the guitar and singing. Nick and two friends in matching suits did a reprise of their winning dance which ended with the unveiling of the prom invitation. Naturally, the teacher of the classroom he used was also in on it.</div>
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Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-36115002687666071212016-02-26T15:15:00.000-08:002016-02-26T15:15:27.625-08:00Innovation ReignsTony is a very busy child. Not one to sit and watch TV all day long (nor, I'm afraid, read a book) he is constantly testing concepts, learning new tricks and ideas, and putting them all together in projects.<br />
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Not all of his projects have been a total success. He ran into some problems with his "real" Iron Man suit. His recent Galaxy egg project began with a trip to Michaels and ended with a rather large can of paint remover which kept the house smelling, um, sterile for two days (although the egg WAS beautiful.)<br />
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This one, however, is great! And it really works!<br />
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Yes, indeed, it is a speaker for a smart phone. Easy to make with things found around the house, and super satisfactory results.<br />
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Go, Tony, perhaps we should look to you for the next "big" thing?! I'm sure we won't have to wait long...Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-24544479756724635582016-02-23T14:16:00.001-08:002016-02-23T14:16:29.457-08:00Happy Birthday, BellaToday my daughter Bella turned 9. She shares her birthday with General George Washington and likes that.<br />
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Bella has always been unique in our family. She feels things very deeply and is quite sensitive to the environment around her. She is very neat with her belongings and loves to organize and store things. She takes great care in all she does and is a very special girl.<br />
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What a pleasure it was to share this birthday celebration with my dear daughter. Here are some photos that reflect her pure joy in the occasion.<br />
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Bella, we couldn't love you more and can't wait to see what you do next!</div>
Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-26149520273971398632016-02-17T22:57:00.000-08:002016-02-17T22:57:59.288-08:004 Drivers (!)For years and years Jay and I were the only two drivers in the family. About a year and a half ago, Joey got his license and things were...expensive! But also easier, as he could help us pick up things (or siblings) or drop them off. Grandma Marilyn gave Joey her 1997 Nissan Pick-Up Truck and that served him especially well as he drove to Mountain High for his job as a ski instructor last winter. Thank you, grandma!<br />
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As you may recall, Joey also has a Jeep Wrangler that he loves, but it is grounded in our garage for the moment. At some point you will hear about it again once we find the time to get a minor repair done. It's ironic because I cleaned the garage out in the fall so I could get my car back in there before the weather got cold. I parked there exactly twice before Joey put his Jeep in my spot the first day it rained. The Jeep doesn't have a waterproof top on it, so it has just stayed where it is since it has been raining so often this winter. Every morning when I go out to preheat the car (or scrape the ice off the window), shivering, I utter a tiny little Jeep-curse under my breath.<br />
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In much bigger news, about two weeks ago, Lindsey got her license too. Not as expensive this time, but doubly convenient. She loves to go out any time she has the chance so she has become my go-to girl for milk or bananas, and even better, she drives herself to her friends' houses! This has been a major time-saver for us. Grandpa Harry gave her his 2004 Civic and she loves it. It is very "her" and I love to see her jetting around in it. Thank you, grandpa!<br />
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Yes, the family is growing up. We only have a few months left with Joey at home and two more years with Lindsey before she goes as well. I plan to enjoy as many moments as I can with them before that time comes.<br />
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Of course, I'll probably have to take the batteries out of their cars in order to "find" those moments!Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-21970083877635448372016-02-16T21:19:00.001-08:002016-02-16T21:19:06.996-08:00Julia's Best Meet EverIt was on Valentine's Day in Long Beach. The convention center was teeming with gymnasts. Julia walked in confidently and...kicked butt!<br />
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She got her best all around score ever, earning 2nd place. She placed 1st on bars and medaled on every event. <br />
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Yes, it was fun to watch, but she is always fun to watch. She is a graceful and beautiful gymnast and I love watching her grow and excel in her sport. When she is rewarded with good scores, it is truly icing on the cake.<br />
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In other gym news, Bella was just promoted to team Excel Silver and has added a day to her practice. She begins competing next January and will go the same meets as Julia, just at different times. She is very happy about this development and has worked hard to get there. Finally, Natalie was just moved to level 2 in the pre-team classes, so it is good news "all around". (Sorry, a little gym humor.)<br />
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Go Di Silvestri girls!Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-64423707530340238252016-02-10T22:21:00.002-08:002016-02-10T22:21:41.186-08:00Happy Lent (Wait, Already?!)Didn't we just finish the Christmas season? How can it be Lent already?<br />
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However it happened, it happened. Exactly one month of Ordinary time passed in between Christmas and Lent, and here we are on Ash Wednesday. For the second time in my journey as a Catholic, Ash Wednesday has come before Valentine's Day. Luckily, though, Valentine's Day is on a Sunday, which is always a feast day, even during Lent. Thank goodness for that, because See's and Lindt are very important to me. Really.<br />
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Seriously, Lent has arrived again and I am glad. I like Lent much better than Advent (which, to me, is characterized by pressures of all kinds which means little time to actually think about the coming of the Christ-child). Lent is different. There is plenty of time during which we are not constantly pressured to find presents for everyone, decorate the house, send cards and bake cookies. I honestly don't know when I became such a Scrooge, but each year I have a harder and harder time making it through Christmas.<br />
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Inversely, I look forward to Lent as a time to reconnect with our Lord, who so often takes a backseat to all the business of our daily lives. It is a time of reading (this year it is Matthew Kelly's Rediscover Jesus), studying (check out FORMED on line), questioning how I am doing in my quest for eternal life, and being able to plan how to become the person God wants me to be. Life carries on, but in more hushed tones and with a little less drama. It is peaceful.<br />
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As you may recall from last year, I try to add something productive during Lent rather than mortify myself (my husband reminds me that my illness mortifies me automatically, which I can't really argue with). So, no, I am not giving up chocolate or sweets or caffeine. I will try to be more measured with them, but I will not cut them out completely. Instead, I am committed to getting back on track with my blog and will be posting at least three times a week during Lent. I really enjoy writing in this space and haven't been doing it lately for lack of inspiration and energy. Maybe this can get me back on track, for real this time.<br />
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I have mostly settled into a one week good/one week bad schedule with my chemo so I think I can better manage and predict my best and worst days and work the blogging in with that. I feel, when I don't blog, that I begin turning inward and become less social overall. I don't want to give into that (unless I REALLY want to take a nap, that is). Plus, my short term memory is pretty bad now, so this is a good place for me to write down what is going on in my life so I don't forget it all. Plus, some day my kids can read this and remember parts of their lives that I was able to record.<br />
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Wish me luck, as I wish you, with all your Lenten endeavors. Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-12138531505873958572015-11-16T11:10:00.003-08:002015-11-16T11:10:39.826-08:00Another CancerversaryHi all,<br />
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Today, six years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. At the time the prognosis was not great: I had an 80% chance of dying before 5 years. I prayed and prayed that I would be able to see Natalie enter Kindergarten. Now she is in 2nd grade.<br />
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I am thinking this morning about all the blessings in my life, especially those that have come to me through the cancer. Things like really, truly appreciating my family and each day we have together (and yes, some days this is harder than others as the kids go through their various phases), learning to ask for and accept help, understanding that I am truly in charge of virtually nothing, and most of all understanding how to calm down about the little things and rest in trust of God.<br />
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My kids are old enough now to remember me (for good or bad!). I have learned to say no to things that stress me out. I have learned to accept my own weaknesses and how to apologize (and really mean it) when I know I have made a mistake. I now understand that my house can be "lived in" and reasonably cluttered, yet I can still have guests. I wasted a lot of time and opportunities over the years before I learned these things.<br />
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I still have a lot to learn, though, and many more memories to make with my kids, so I am still praying and praying...but now it is that I will get to meet my grandchildren! Please? Yet, as Jay's Grandma used to say in her thick Italian accent, "Whatever Godawants".Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-68710905209546719592015-10-01T14:27:00.000-07:002015-10-01T14:27:06.112-07:00Peace, Faith, Hope and LoveI am experiencing a "double dip" on the roller coaster right now, so I thought I would let you know what is happening so you can ride along with me!<br />
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My recent brain scan showed that the tumor we radiated in July shrunk by about half. Great news. The not-so-great news is that a tumor that we treated in February 2014 is growing again. Theoretically, since I had whole brain radiation in 2011, I am safely allowed one more direct treatment to each new tumor that pops up. As this has already been treated, there is not much we can do here if we want to be totally safe. The tumor is too far interior for surgical intervention, so we are trying a couple of other things. First, I have another brain MRI in a few weeks that adds a special process which will allow my neuro oncologist to see what portion of the area is new tumor and what is scar tissue from the last treatment by the blood flowing in the area. This is important information for him, as necrosis (scarring) can keep growing for some time after treatment and without the blood flow information it is hard to know what is what. The second thing is to try to treat with chemos that cross the blood/brain barrier. One of my two new ones does cross, so we will see if that helps over the next few months. <br />
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This is the first time in a long time we have had a genuine concern so I am definitely asking for prayers. Thank you, thank you, thank you!<br />
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I also wanted to share with everyone how completely peaceful I am about this development. As you know, I have a very strong faith and I truly believe that whatever happens here will be for the best according to God's will, even if we can't see it right away. I am his daughter and he loves me. I trust him completely and this brings me such great peace. I don't spend time worrying about what I can't control (which is basically everything!), and I am not afraid. So I also ask that, as you pray for me, that you will ask God for this same peace and trust in your own life. It has made such a difference in mine and I want everyone to experience it.<br />
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I thank my family and dear friends who have stepped up their care for me during this dip, especially as I get used to my new drugs. I love you all so much!<br />
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I am very optimistic that we will clear this hurdle and that I will have many more years here on earth to enjoy. Hope is a beautiful thing.<br />
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On a related note, I urge all of you to go as soon as you can to Governor Brown's web site and ask him to Veto the bill now on his desk that would approve Assisted Suicide in California. We have until October 7th, but he could move sooner. <br />
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This is a very personal issue for me as I don't want this to open the door for my insurance company to decide I am too expensive to keep alive and that now we have a "better" option for those of us with terminal illnesses. I believe there is great value in suffering if we learn how to direct it properly, for the benefit of others. I don't want anyone but God to decide when my life ends. If you agree with even a part of this, please take a minute to follow these instructions:<br />
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Fast forward thirty-some years. I am still on this roller coaster, but this time it is not Colossus. It is cancer.<br />
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It is still thrilling to go up, up, up, even knowing that a drop will come again. However, now there is no hair whipping in the wind, and every bump on the track hurts. I remember my dad (who took me to Magic Mountain many times) saying that the bumpy tracks hurt his back, but he kept going with me because the benefit outweighed the pain. I keep riding for the same reason.<br />
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Just like on Colossus, with cancer the first dip was the biggest. The shock of diagnosis, the understanding of how bad things were, plunging in to treatment. Since then, the rest have been smaller rises and falls, with a few surprises in between.<br />
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After a year of mostly up, I am once again flying down the track. But don't worry, I am not falling too far. I feel the safety harness around me and know that I will soon hear the click-click-click of the track pulling me back up for another go.<br />
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As I mentioned in a previous post, I have had a couple of hospital stays and some brain radiation over the summer. A recent PET scan showed significant activity in my bones, particularly in my right hip area, spine and sacrum. That's the bad news. The good news is that the major soft tissue organs, lungs and liver are still clear. I have often repeated the wisdom of my first oncologist Dr. John Glaspy of UCLA, "The bones won't kill you." This gives me great hope.<br />
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Nevertheless, we want to keep the tumor load under control and we especially don't want the weight bearing upper femur to crack, so that is the first thing we are attacking. Today I have the 6th of 10 fractions of radiation to my right upper leg. The super good news about this is that I get to have these treatments right here in the Antelope Valley at the City of Hope and do not have to drive to Beverly Hills 10 days in a row! The other good news about this is that I am on break from most of my chemos while on radiation, so I am feeling pretty good, although, of course, tired from the radiation.<br />
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When this course is over, we will not be going back to Taxol. It worked for a long time, but with this activity we can assume that the cancer has outsmarted it. I will start Carboplatin and Gemzar with hopes this will buy me more time going up, up, up. By the time the inevitable dip comes, surely there will be something else to try. <br />
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In order to qualify as a thrill ride, it has to be the right combination of scary and exhilarating. I'd say I'm still riding Colossus, but perhaps now on the new "twisted" track. Hopefully it will be a little less bumpy now. Wheeeee!!!<br />
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Football season is starting and somehow, we have no players. What?! But we have three boys who have always loved football! How can this be?</div>
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We lost Joey as a player last year when, after 9 years of playing, he decided he was done. Ok, we get it. If you're happy, we're happy.</div>
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Tony decided to take a break from the Rebels after learning his team would start practicing earlier than ever. We get that too, the kid wants his summer. We are pretty sure he will get back to it in the future after a bit of a rest and an anticipated growth spurt.</div>
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But Sam? Sam was quite enthusiastic about football and practiced all summer with the Paraclete High School JV team. As an incoming freshman who has played every year since he was seven years old with the Rebels, he was ready to go. After conditioning all summer he finally got in pads and spend two glorious days ramming into kids and demonstrating his true love for the game. We were all looking forward to his first game just a few weeks away.</div>
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When his turn didn't go as planned and he couldn't find the brake, he froze with the throttle on full. If he had just let it go, all would have been fine. But instead, here we are:</div>
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<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-39395963516058298042015-08-02T10:47:00.001-07:002015-08-02T10:47:11.987-07:00Ups and DownsI always picture summer as this time of oasis for our family. A time to get things done around the house, to get out of the endless cycle of driving the kids around, a time with little to no nagging about homework...<br />
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Summer, though I still enjoy it more than the school year, has been no sort of oasis. If anything, it has been even crazier than the school year (is that possible?!).<br />
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We've backed down to one football player and no cheerleaders this year, so that is something. However, we've added on to Julia's and Bella's gym time so it might behoove us to move somewhere next door to the place with the number of times I drive back and forth each week.<br />
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My medical needs have stepped up a bit lately and I have been in the hospital twice this month for seemingly ridiculous things, but apparently when you have stage IV cancer, and especially when it is in your brain, even the most ridiculous things can be serious. I spent one night at Cedar's in July when I vomited and got severe chills right after my Taxol treatment (Jay laughed at that one, telling anyone who would listen that I am ALWAYS cold). This past week I spend two nights after I had a scary episode of not being able to find words or make them come out in a coherent way, coupled with an "auora"which I would have called an ocular migraine, except it did not come from my eyes. I have a new brain tumor in my right frontal lobe which seems to be causing this trouble, so I ended my stay with a large but very targeted blast of radiation which will hopefully take the wind out of its sails. As of now I feel completely normal after sleeping for three straight days. I realize that I may have been taking my fairly good health for granted and need to remember that every day is a gift.<br />
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Lindsey just got her learner's permit which might scare some parents, but I am thrilled to have a fourth driver coming on board. Believe me, we need it.<br />
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School will be starting on August 17th with three kids at Paraclete High School (Joey is a senior, Lindsey a sophomore and Sam a freshman) and four at Sacred Heart School (grades 2,3,4 and 7). As always, we have employed a "each child each year" assessment as to where we think they will thrive.<br />
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My mom has had her share of hospital time this summer as well, scaring us all to death with a pulmonary embolism (in English, a blood clot in her lungs). She stayed 5 days, the first few days in the ICU, but I was very happy with the ER docs at Palmdale Regional Medical Center who diagnosed and treated her correctly right away. We could have easily lost her. She will be on blood thinners indefinitely.<br />
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Julia had four permanent molars removed (not wisdom teeth, those go later) as one of her teeth was completely sideways in her jaw and rotated 180 degrees to boot. After reviewing the options and how crowded her mouth is in general, we opted to take the four as opposed to taking years to try to coax that tooth down and around orthodontically. She has healed well and was a great sport about the whole thing.<br />
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We had a visitor from Spain throughout July, a 14 year old girl named Camino (translated, her name means "the way" as in "the way of the cross"). Her sister Maria was with us last summer and we had a chance to visit her family in Valencia last fall when we went to Spain for the Beatification of Don Alvaro. We had a great time with her and hope she enjoyed her first visit to the United States.<br />
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In other summer news, Lindsey and her friend went to VidCon in Anaheim and had the time of her life. She is interested in pursuing a career in electronic media (i.e. YouTube) and she got to meet many of her favorite "You Tubers". It is a whole new world out there, let me tell you. Currently, she is interested specifically in working for BuzzFeed. If you know what that is, you are hipper than I am, but I am learning.<br />
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Tony has set up a You Tube channel of his own, specifically dedicated to helping people with MineCraft. Apparently there is a MineCon on the horizon and guess who wants to go? We will have to see about that one. <br />
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So, all is well at Casa Di Silvestri, but as usual nothing went as planned this summer. I am already looking at school supplies and uniforms and wondering why my garage organization project is still only half done. Maybe someday!<br />
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<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-33163333221585624872015-06-16T16:53:00.000-07:002015-06-16T16:53:11.346-07:00This Says It AllWhen you have a minute, take a look at this roughly three minute You Tube video made by a woman who has been living with metastatic breast cancer for 17 years (!).<br />
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She is trying to educate people who don't understand that metastatic cancer is quite different from Stage I-III cancer, and she covers it very nicely. <br />
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Lots of people ask me if I am in remission and it is hard to explain that I can never really be done with treatment. It kind of deflates people who are enthusiastic about beating this disease. So, I offer you Holley Kitchen to explain how it is.<br />
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Holley is a great example of someone like me who is living a fairly normal life with metastatic cancer. She, like me, fights for her kids. And they are SO worth it!Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-56323938499376888402015-06-11T16:49:00.001-07:002015-06-11T16:49:29.901-07:00How Do I Do It?People ask me this question a lot. They ask me when they learn I have seven children. Then they REALLY ask me when they hear I have seven children AND Stage IV cancer.<div>
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Some people go so far as to say that I am some sort of saint. Hardly! I struggle just like everyone else does. Yes, I want to be a saint and I want my children to be saints (hence the name raisingsaints), but working toward that every day does not mean that I have or ever will reach that goal on earth.</div>
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I know a few real saints-to-be here on earth, and I am not that. Try as I might, I get crabby with my kids and snap at my husband from time to time without real cause. I am quite lazy and like to sleep as much as possible. I tend to put off my work until the last minute which is not saint-like at all! I forget to think outside of my family some days and have a hard time saying no to foods I like. I could go on and on...</div>
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I write this because I want everyone to know that I am a regular person just like all of you are and the only remarkable think about me is that I have survived Stage IV cancer and its treatments for 5 and a half years, and you must know this has been completely out of my control! God has been very good to me and my faith in him is strong. I worry about very little and trust anything that is out of my control to him, and that is working well for me.</div>
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Some days I do well, but only because of the energy I have prayed for. Some days not so well. But every day I try and try again to be what God wants me to be and as long as I keep trying I am doing alright.</div>
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So, in a nutshell...THAT'S how I do it! And you can do it too.</div>
Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-61603448671805334932015-04-23T11:16:00.001-07:002015-04-23T11:16:36.720-07:00ShaneeA few years ago I participated in a cancer survivor program as part of my treatment at Cedars-Sinai. It was for people who were mostly done with their treatments and needed some help getting back into the swing of things. It specifically addressed issues such as chemo brain (i.e. forgetting things), physical effects (neuropathy, nutrition, balance), nutrition going forward, dealing with mood changes, etc. We met once a week for six weeks and were a group of six people.<br />
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Since the class ended, we have kept up via email and shared our successes and setbacks from time to time. Only one other person besides me was dealing with metastatic cancer long-term, so the attitude of the group was, "we made it through, so now what". No one in our group embodied that attitude as fiercely as Shanee.<br />
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She was young, had started her own business, and was very ready to get on with her life. Her cancer experience had been, in my interpretation of her view, an inconvenience or a side step on her way. She was very positive and full of ideas and plans.<br />
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Shanee "completed" her cancer experience in January with her long-awaited breast reconstruction, and off she went to conquer the world.<br />
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I first heard something was wrong from another group member about a month and a half ago. She told me Shanee's cancer had returned and that she was in the hospital, but that she was in good spirits and would like visitors. Three weeks ago I went to visit her after my treatment and found her just leaving her room for a procedure. I spoke with her briefly, she was very happy to see me and I told her I would try to come back on my next treatment day.<br />
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A week or so later I heard she had been moved out of the critical care tower where I saw her and was in a regular room. She appeared to be doing better.<br />
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After another week she was moved back, but this time into ICU, was intubated and on oxygen, and needed to have her lungs drained periodically. A tumor ruptured a major artery and she was bleeding internally. She slipped into a coma and stayed there.<br />
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Shanee died early yesterday morning in the intensive care unit of Cedars-Sinai. Lord, receive her soul. I heard the news while I was driving to my chemo appointment.<br />
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This loss hit me very hard, although I did not know her well. She was so full of life and plans and she never saw this coming. I was attending the class with a very different perspective and was wistful that she was going to get to return to her normal life and I never would. I couldn't have been more wrong.<br />
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Cancer is a nasty, sneaky disease. No matter the stage a person is diagnosed, the experience is really never over. You always are on guard. In some ways, I am grateful for my stage IV diagnosis right off the bat because I will always be monitored regularly and will have a chance to get on top of anything new before it gets out of control. No, this doesn't make me totally safe, but it certainly helps.<br />
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I can honestly say that I am at peace with whatever comes my way. I understand that I am not in control of any of this and God's will is always what is best for me. In the meantime, I am trying to make the most of every day I have (as we all should).<br />
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The doctors who led our group are planning a get together for us to remember Shanee and to share some coping strategies with us. <br />
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In the meantime, please pray for her soul and for her family and friends. Rest in peace, Shanee.<br />
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<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-15778604157223388782015-04-18T00:10:00.000-07:002015-04-18T00:10:04.782-07:00Further Proof Kids Are Worth Having When I picked the kids up from school a few days ago, Natalie had something to tell me.<br />
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"Mom," she said. "We finished Family Life today." <br />
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Family life, in Catholic Schools, is a euphamism for the facts of life. It starts out quite simply in the early grades, but gets more complicated as the kids get older. In 5th grade the truths of the body come out, and from there it gets to bigger issues that kids need to know and some parents are reluctant to talk about. I have seen the materials and have no problem with the program or how it is presented, and none of my kids have had anything to say about it at any level. We talk about most of these things at home before they get to them in school, and I like that it is taught from a purely Catholic perspective and focuses on building faithful, happy families.<br />
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Given that Natalie is in first grade, I couldn't imagine she heard anything she couldn't handle, but I could tell that something was bothering her.<br />
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She began to explain that there was a section on vocations and everyone had to check a box next to what they think might be their vocation as adults. The list included being married, discovering a religious vocation, etc. <br />
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With complete dismay, she went on, "There was no box for 'I want to stay home with my mommy', so I had to check the 'become a religious sister' box."<br />
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How sweet it is to be loved by Natalie.<br />
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<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-51461075838467425282015-04-12T22:04:00.001-07:002015-04-12T22:04:55.683-07:00She Did It!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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After mentioning a few posts ago that Julia had not had her
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She hit all of her routines, nailed her often-troublesome
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Congratulations to my beautiful and determined daughter who,
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A few weeks ago, the drive shaft cracked in the Jeep, rendering it undrivable. (Luckily, we still have the truck Joey drove before the Jeep entered his life, so he was able to carry on.) Joey and Jay assessed the damage, watched some videos on YouTube, and ordered the necessary parts. While waiting for the parts, Joey read the Jeep repair manual and figured out what he needed to do. <br />
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The last part arrived today. When Jay was unable to help him get started right away, Joey began the work himself. Sam and Tony watched (and assisted when needed). After three hours or so, long after the younger boys abandoned ship, he came upstairs and happily showed us his repair. This was not a simple replacement. Please understand that I know very little about car engines, but it involved U Joints, grease, transfer case housing, bushings and other assorted parts. <br />
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Joey had little experience before today with complex auto repair, so needless to say we were very impressed by his motivation and tenacity. When he ran into a problem with some roller bearings he figured it out on his own. Now he understands that he can learn how to fix pretty much anything by finding a "how-to" YouTube video on the subject, and that is a gift that keeps on giving.Joey'sSuzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-17560398704719700222015-03-30T14:34:00.000-07:002015-03-30T14:34:30.797-07:00Movin' on UpWe just finished registering Sam for Paraclete High School. Gulp.<br />
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Next year we will have three kids in high school at once. Joey will be a senior, Lindsey will be a sophomore and Sam will be a freshman. <br />
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The other four will remain at Sacred Heart (provided I find the time to re-register them before the deadline tomorrow).<br />
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Now, you might think this is a story about how I can't believe how fast this time came about. After all, wasn't it just yesterday that I captured a video of Sam scootering in the front yard in his overalls, wearing Lindsey's pink sparkly princess sandals, crashing, then getting up with a big smile and starting again? It's not.<br />
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Actually, it's a story about "oh my goodness, how can we afford this"?! Turns out, it is quite a chunk of change to send three kids to a private high school. The elementary tuition we have been used to for awhile, but this jump is going to hurt. <br />
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Is it worth it? Believe me, we ask ourselves that question all the time. We think so.<br />
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Quartz Hill High School is a massive community over 4000 students. That is the population of many small towns. There are all sorts of kids that go there and, while many kids do well, I am afraid my kids might be lost there. Paraclete is under 1000 (7 hundred something I think) and pretty much everyone knows everyone else, yet it isn't so small that you feel trapped with the same people all the time.<br />
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Ironically, Paraclete is a focused college prep school, and we are highly encouraging the kids to do two years at a JC before they go to a university. With a couple of exceptions our kids are fairly average academically, and we honestly believe they will have a better high school experience (not so much pressure) and a better college experience (can get into better universities after two years with a good record at a JC). Plus, they will know better what they want to do by then, whereas I basically wasted my first two years at UCSB messing around with changing my major and being distracted socially. A bonus of this is that we will save <i>14 years</i> of college tuition if they take that path. Which justifies the expense of a private high school.<br />
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Of course we are open to individual children who have different plans, and we are willing to work with them however we can. But at the end of the day, this is the path we would choose for them.<br />
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An example of how close-knit the Paraclete community is just happened today. I called the pediatrician this morning to make appointments for Bella and Tony. Naturally, I know everyone that works there. Sandy answered the phone, who happens to live on my street and whose kids all went to Paraclete. She told me how when Jay brought the registration papers on Saturday that he forgot Sam's immunization card (which I already knew because even though I filled it out I missed putting it in the pile of papers I gave him). This is not something I expect to hear when I call the pediatrician for an appointment, but you know what? I love it.<br />
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Most of the reason why it is worth it for us, though, is the faith factor. Even though many kids who go to Paraclete aren't Catholic, there are plenty who are. Very few students have been raised with no faith at all. We are happy with the religious instruction and that Jesus is ever present in whatever the school does. I am definitely not a Pollyanna who believes there are no drugs, parties, or sex happening at Paraclete. But when you know the families of the kids your kids are friends with, there is a much better chance of getting your children through unscathed.<br />
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So, we will pay out the nose for it. And eat a lot more pasta. :-)Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-24875917516877644492015-03-30T12:17:00.002-07:002015-03-30T12:17:17.866-07:00Whales and Dolphins and Seals, Oh My!Our family went whale watching on Saturday! We had a wonderful time cruising out of the Santa Barbara harbor on a 50' catamaran called the <i>Double Dolphin </i>on an absolutely perfect day.<br />
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All of us were aboard, even grandma, except for Lindsey who has a strong aversion to deep ocean water and a significant fear of whales. After trying to convince her for many days, we ended up leaving her at the harbor with a friend and the two of them were perfectly happy to go to the beach and the pier. Although we certainly would have preferred to be all together on the boat, at least we had the ride. <br />
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Here are some pictures of our day...we saw about seven Pacific Grey Whales, a seal and a pod of about 100+ dolphins who played in our wake and delighted us all.<br />
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Really, the only bummer of the day was that Natalie was sick. She had been feverish on Friday but when she woke up Saturday I thought she was better. About an hour after the boat left she got very cold and up went the fever again. I didn't bring any kid's Tylenol with me, so for about an hour of the cruise she was bundled up sleeping on my lap. But she did see the whales and dolphins and got a good deal of the experience before she went down. Oh, and also, my mom lost her phone. That was another bummer. I'm still hoping it will show up, but it wasn't left on the boat nor in in our car and it is "offline" on Find my iPhone even though it had nearly a full charge. Therefore, I'm afraid it might have gone overboard in the excitement.<br />
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After the cruise we went to the Palm Sunday vigil mass at the Santa Barbara Mission (so beautiful!) and out to dinner at Giovanni's in Isla Vista. We had a chance to drive the kids through the UCSB campus, show them where Jay and I met, and relive our favorite pizza place ever. I was a little dismayed to realize it had been 25 years since I had been there. Hard to believe.<br />
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Anyway, we had a wonderful time and would like to thank Grandpa Marty for gifting our family the money to "do something fun together" at Christmas time. We spent it well!<br />
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P.S. If you ever want to whale watch out of Santa Barbara, I highly recommend Santa Barbara Sailing Co. They were fantastic, low key with all the small kids aboard and super talented in finding the aquatic mammals!Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-51933838222190050142015-03-24T22:36:00.001-07:002015-03-24T22:36:47.218-07:00Julia the "Giant"Julia has grown very tall very quickly. She is not yet twelve but is already taller than Lindsey who is 15. I am happy to see my children growing healthy and strong, yet for a gymnast it can be problematic.<br />
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Her body has changed so much that she has had to re-learn how to do a few things in the gym. A taller body has to be stronger in order for it to turn itself around. I would imagine that many people in her situation would slow down or give up, but not her! She is in the gym 13.5 hours a week and conditions at home every day on her own accord. This girl is strong! Instead of slowing down, she is speeding up, learning new skills nearly every week.<br />
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April 12th will be the last meet of her Level 6 season, the State Championship in San Diego. This has not been her best competitive season, partly due to a fractured big toe, and partly due to her rapid growth, both of which caused her to lose some skills she had at the beginning of the season. My guess is that she lost some confidence along the way, but she has persevered and is coming back strong. I loved seeing her character come through, both when she received solid scores and not-so-great scores. She was fairly unruffled by the bad and never bragged about the good. I am very proud of how even-keeled she is and how she doesn't get down on herself when she posts a bad routine. She just resolves to do better next time and immediately wants to know what we are going to eat after the awards.<br />
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Her coach sent me this video of her doing her first independent GIANTS on the bar without being strapped to it. I am constantly amazed at what she can do.<br />
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Lindsey just finished her second play as part of the Drama Club at Paraclete High School...<i>Little Women</i>! </div>
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Her first play was in the fall, Damn Yankees, in which she had a minor part. This time, however, she had a much larger role. She played Amy March, the youngest March sister. If you are familiar with the tale, you will know that she is the daughter who ends up marrying Laurie, the rich boy next door.</div>
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If I do say so myself, she was wonderful! She has a natural stage presence, doesn't overact and can be wickedly funny. She also sings beautifully, although this play was not a musical. Here are some photos of the event:</div>
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Lindsey has really transitioned well to high school and the school's amazing drama department is a huge part of why that is. She "found her people" there and made a new group of friends that will see her through her years at Paraclete, to go along with the friends that came with her from her nine years at Sacred Heart.</div>
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She is now learning the songs for her spring musical, <i>The Heights</i>. This one is new to me, but I am enjoying the modern music and plot. I can't wait to see it! </div>
<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-39859169408979227422015-03-18T11:15:00.002-07:002015-03-18T11:15:42.488-07:00Maternal BlessingsLast fall my mother moved in with us. She had fallen at her house while ill and dehydrated and could not get up. Thanks be to God she had the presence of mind to push the medic alert button which she always wears around her neck, and the paramedics came and took her to the ER. They called both Jay and I right away, so I was with her at the hospital during her rehydration until she was stable enough to leave. I spent that night by her bedside asking God what to do.<br />
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It was very clear to me that she should no longer be living by herself. Luckily, I chose a wonderful husband 20 years ago who totally agreed and encouraged the move. Just as wonderful, after that scare, my fiercely independent mom readily agreed and we began the process right away. <br />
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Needless to say, we had to juggle a few things around the make this work. First, we had to move Lindsey out of her downstairs suite where she was quite comfortable, slightly separated from the family and with her own bathroom. Fortunately, she understood and the disruption was minimal.<br />
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We have a large house with 5 real bedrooms and we have also converted the "media room" and the "loft" into bedrooms. Given that we have that much space, I think it is important that my oldest four children (ages almost 12 to almost 17) have their own rooms. The three smaller ones have to make do until the older ones move out.<br />
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Next dilemma: The three youngest are two girls and a boy, ages 6, 8 and 9 respectively. We had only one room left for the three of them, so what to do? It turns out that we had a master closet the size of a bedroom that was mostly wasted space for us. With a little organizing and a little more purging I was able to move my half of the closet into a nook in the bedroom where Jay was formerly working. We moved some furniture around and, voila! Jay has a workspace that he is very happy with, I have a closet that I have to keep very neat since it is in plain view (which is really good for me) and Tony has a space of his own. I only wish it had a window, but he doesn't really spend that much time in there anyway.<br />
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We have had to plan things a little in terms of changing and showering since the bathroom is in the middle, but so far it is going quite well and he is quite respectful of our privacy. He is happy to have his own space (although at one time he had his own room, he was quite generous in welcoming grandma and is content to wait until another room opens up). His bed, dresser, toys and trophies are all there and that walls are decorated with his favorite things. So, no "in the closet" jokes, OK?<br />
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Anyway, I got a little sidetracked there because the point of this post was to talk about what a blessing it is to have my mom living with us. She gets to spend lots of time with the kids and helps me with pick ups and drop offs. She accomplished the amazing task of taking her 3 bedroom 2 bath house with garage down to a single, albeit large, room and one bathroom. Some things were hard to part with but I think she is happy with her new, condensed lifestyle. She doesn't have to worry anymore about much of anything. She joins us for dinner every night, we know when she is feeling poorly, and we are much better equipped to help her now. Plus, she brings some of the joy of my childhood into the house and I love to see her playing games with the kids the way she did with me when I was a child.<br />
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I know that for many people this would be a difficult situation. With tensions common among in-laws and even within families I am well aware of how fortunate we are to have her and for everyone to be happy about it! She and Jay have gotten to know each other better and I am very happy for her to know what a great husband I have.<br />
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Her house is almost ready to rent. We just replaced flooring where needed and have a few other little things left to do. Please pray that we secure good, respectful people who will treat the house well. Thank you!<br />
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<br />Suzanne Di Silvestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10750341408213577690noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27290715.post-62660478016578784962015-03-17T22:53:00.001-07:002015-03-17T22:53:36.873-07:00My Favorite ThingTonight was one of the rare times our family was all together on an evening that is not a Sunday. It seems like someone is always missing due to work travel, sports practice, drama or other social activities. However, there we were, all of us sitting together watching American Restoration on a Tuesday evening! <br />
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I felt a deep contentment as I looked around at all the faces I love so much and wished for a moment to freeze time right where it is.<br />
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It is very much on my mind that we have only a little over a year before Joey graduates from high school. The are only 14 precious months left to have us all living together under one roof. Or maybe longer if Joey goes to AVC for his first two years, but even so it will be different because he will be officially an adult. We are almost to the part where everything is going to start changing. <br />
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I am desperately trying to hold on to this unity as long as I can, but it is going quickly. Tick tock...make it stop!<br />
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